Friday, August 15, 2008

情绪勒索

你知道情绪勒索是怎么一回事吗?我不懂如何解释,不过我知道我怕。怕得我到底在怕什么也说不出来。

然后你又叫我 dramaqueen。

我不禁在想,我是 dramaqueen 的话,我岂会是今天这样的成就而已?早就飞黄腾达了!

"Emotional blackmail hits closer to home. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationship with them. They know our vulnerabilities. Often they know our deepest secret. And no matter how much they care about us, when they fear they won't go their way, they use this intimate knowledge to shape the threats that give them the payoff they want: our compliance. Knowing that we want love or approval, our blackmailers threaten to withhold it or take it away altogether, or make feel we must earn it. For example, if you pride yourself being generous and caring, the blackmailer might label you selfish or inconsiderate if you don't accede to his wishes. If you value money and security, the blackmailer might attach conditions to providing them or threaten to take them away. And if you believe the blackmailer, you could fall into a pattern of letting him control your decisions and behavior. We get locked into a dance with blackmail, a dance with myriad steps, shapes and partners."

OK OK 就当我是 dramaqueen 好了,我想太多 -- 但如此承认的话,那现在更加没有任何理由我不能成为有钱人了吧!嘿嘿!

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